Actually I am quite happy most of the times,I can go and come when and whereever I want.And do as I like most of the times.But then the world is so worried about your being single that you also start worrying.
This actually made me sit back and think what is so alluring about being single? Man is a social animal and woman well they can hardly stay without it. Afterall gossip,fashion,style and this has tobe exchanged. And then you need to date,flirt and stare at men too. You can do all of that with different set of people and be happy. You are not obliged to with one person. You can always be with the happy and going out people. But then we are basically insecure people and hence have this constant urge of calling something our own. So whether its a house, a car or people we have to have it just for us. Hence we get married,committed etc. So does that mean people get married to own people? Maybe ,maybe not. I heard someone remark that people get married to legitimise sex. Is that right? Hmmmm.... I dont know. Infact I also read some where that there are three types of marriages- arranged, for love and for convenience. So do the earlier assumptions fit a certain type of marriage and not all. Or is it that it fits all but in only some proportions? Maybe could be!
Well I have strayed. This wasnt about marriage but about being single. Well first we need to establish what does being single mean. Does it mean being not married or just being alone? Lets just agree that it means that it means not married. So what does a single's life look like? Hmmm should I say its fun or is atleast better than getting married? I wouldnt be able to select the second option as I have not been married so let us explore another perspective. Well I have often thought that our lives revolve around other people like our parents ,siblings,friends etc. Somewhere between being somebodies daughter/son, sister/brother, husband/wife, father/mother we lose ourselves.We loose the me. I think its this "me" that you sometimes catch glimpse of when you are single. Thats probably because the roles you are playing are lesser and bear less responsibility. But then does having found "Myself" make me happy? Maybe not?
Labels: Being Single